Friendships don't usually end with a dramatic argument. They end quietly — one unanswered message, one cancelled plan, one month that stretches to three, then a year, then a memory. By the time you notice, it is already too late to pick up naturally.
The Cold Kin concept
A Cold Kin in Whokin is a person you care about whose relationship temperature has dropped — you haven't been in touch for longer than usual, and the gap is widening. Whokin surfaces this information proactively so you can act on it while the relationship is still warm, not after it has gone cold.
Cold is not dead. It is a warning, not a verdict. The most powerful moment to act is when you first notice the drift, not after it has calcified into awkwardness.
Relationships don't die from one big moment. They die from accumulated small neglects. Cold Kin makes the small neglects visible.
How Whokin calculates it
Each kin has an ideal contact frequency you can set: weekly, bi-weekly, monthly, or custom. Whokin tracks your last interaction and flags the relationship when it's approaching or past that threshold. It is entirely based on your own data — there is no algorithm judging the quality of your relationship, only a timer based on your intentions.
What counts as an interaction
Interactions are logged by you: calls, in-person meetups, meaningful messages, shared experiences. The more faithfully you log, the more useful the Cold Kin alert becomes. Even a one-sentence note — "quick WhatsApp, she seems good" — resets the timer and gives future-you context.
The nudge report
Once a day (or at the frequency you choose), Whokin sends a digest: here are the three relationships that most need your attention. Not an overwhelming list — just the most important ones. A few minutes of action, directed at the right people, has an outsized effect on relationship health over time.
